Ngati mwakhala mukupita ku ukwati, mwina mwalowa mwambo ndikudabwa kuti, "Ndi mbali iti yomwe ndikuyenera kukhala nayo?" Kawirikawiri pa mwambo waukwati, mipando imakonzedweratu kuti ikhale yaying'ono yokhala ndi kanjira pakati, ndipo alendo amafunika kusankha mbali yotsatila kuti akhalepo, kaya kumanja kapena kumanzere. Malingana ndi mwambo wa ukwati wautali, ena anganene kuti pali mbali yabwino komanso yolakwika kuti mukhalepo, malingana ndi momwe mumadziwira kapena mukugwirizana ndi anthu omwe akukwatirana.
Kotero kodi okwatirana anu akuyenera kuti azidziwa mbali iti ya kanjira kuti akhale?
Mbali ya Mkwatibwi Kapena Mkwati
Pa ukwati wa tchalitchi, otsogolera nthawi zambiri amapempha alendo, "Mkwatibwi wa mbali kapena mkwati?" Koma ndi mbali yanji yomwe? Ndipo chifukwa chiyani?
Ukwati waukwati umatiuza kuti zaka mazana ambiri zapitazo, achifwamba amatha kugwidwa ndi kuthamanga ndi mkwatibwi kuti akabade dowry. Kotero kuti, pofuna kutsimikiza kuti mkwati amatha kusunga lupanga lake (ufulu) mfulu, mkwatibwi anaimirira mbali inayo (kumanzere.) Lero, mosasamala kanthu kuti mkwati samangolola lupanga kapena sakuyenera kuthamanga kuchoka kwa otsutsa, inu nthawizonse mumamuwona mkwatibwi ataima kumanzere kwa mkwati. Ndichikhalidwe cha alendo kuti azitsatira. Kawirikawiri, alendo ndi abambo a mkwatibwi amakhala kumanzere, pamene banja la mkwati ndi alendo akukhala kumanja.
Pamsonkhano waukwati, otsogolera adzaperekeza alendo kupita kumbali yoyenera malinga ndi banja lomwe mlendoyo ali nalo.
Pa nthawi yaukwati , maukwati a mkwati ndi mkwati adzaperekedwera kusanakwatirane. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti kawirikawiri mipando yochepa yokhala ndi mipando kumbali zonse za kanjira ndi yosungirako anthu apabanjapo, choncho onetsetsani kuti mumakhala mzere wochepa ngati simukugwirizana kwambiri ndi awiriwa.
Tsegulani Malo
Inde, pokhapokha ngati mpingo wanu uli wolimba zokhudzana ndi mwambo, palibe chifukwa chomwe muyenera kutsatira ndondomeko yakaleyi, choncho muzimasuka kumasintha zinthu. Mukhoza kukhala ndi anzanu ambiri kusiyana ndi omwe mumacheza ndi anzanu, kapena, muukwati umodzi wa kugonana , mafunso amenewa sangagwiritsidwe ntchito. Ngakhale atatero, omasuka kuika mbali iliyonse monga yanu, kapena kupatsa alendo anu chilolezo kukhala pansi paliponse.
Pamapeto pake, kukhala kwa alendo anu si chinthu chodetsa nkhawa. Pofuna kumasuka, mabanja ambiri amasankha kuwapatsa alendo ufulu wokhala paliponse pomwe asankha.
Kukhala chizindikiro
Zimakhala zachilendo kuti maanja asonyeze zolemba paukwati wawo ndi chidziwitso chanzeru kuti asonyeze mbali yomwe alendo awo ayenera kukhalira, kapena kuti apatse alendo awo chilolezo chosanyalanyaza malamulo akale palimodzi. Malo osungirako ukwati ndi njira yabwino yogawira zokondweretsa zanu ndi alendo anu kotero kuti asadabwe kuti azikhala kuti.
Nazi zitsanzo zingapo:
"Bwera monga iwe uli,
Khala utali wonse momwe iwe ungathere,
Tonse ndife banja tsopano,
Choncho palibe ndondomeko yokhala pansi. "
"Tsopano kuti ife tiri pamodzi palimodzi,
Chonde muzimasuka kukhala pansi kulikonse! "
"Banja ndi abwenzi a mkwati ndi mkwati,
Chonde khalani pamodzi, pali malo ambiri! "
"Iye anati Inde! Tsopano tikuti ndikuchita!
Chonde sankhani malo alionse. Tsopano ndife banja limodzi, osati awiri! "
"Lero mabanja awiri akukhala amodzi,
Ndiye sankhani mpando, osati mbali! "
"Sankhani mpando, osati mbali,
Tonse ndife a banja kamodzi kokha ndodoyo imangirizidwa! "
Kusinthidwa ndi Kusinthidwa ndi Jessica Bishop