Kupereka kutali mkwatibwi ndi miyambo yakale kuyambira nthawi yomwe akazi anali chuma cha atate awo mpaka atakwatirana ndikukhala chuma cha mwamuna wawo. Mkwatibwi anaperekedwa kwenikweni kuti asinthanitse ndi mtengo wa mkwatibwi kapena dowry . Lero, mwachisangalalo, anthu ambiri samawona akazi motero, komabe "kupatsa mkwatibwi" kungakhale mwayi wapadera woyamika makolo anu ndi ulemu wawo.
M'munsimu, mutha kupeza mawu amodzi ndi ena omwe amachitira mwambo waukwati. M'malo mosiya, makolo anu amatha kunena madalitso awo pa mgwirizano wanu. Mauthenga enawa ndi othandizanso ngati abambo anu ali olumala kapena sangathe kuyenda mumsewu, kapena ngati mukufuna kuphatikizapo zambiri kuposa kholo lanu panthawiyi. Madalitso awa akhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuwonjezera pa, kapena mmalo mwake, mlendo waukwati akulonjeza thandizo .
Kwa mkazi wodziimira, lingaliro la "kusamutsidwa" lingakhale lopambana komanso lachiwerewere. M'malo momangotenga mbali imeneyi ya mwambowu, mukhoza kuisintha kukhala chinthu chotsimikizirika komanso chothandiza.
Lamulo lachikhalidwe: Atate Amayankha
Wopatsa: "Ndani apatsa mkazi uyu kuti akwatiwe ndi mwamuna uyu?" kapena "Ndani amapereka mkazi uyu kuti akwatiwe ndi mwamuna uyu?"
Yankho: "Ndimachita" kapena "Amayi ake ndi ine" kapena "Banja lake ndi ine" kapena (pamodzi) "Timachita."
Kulankhula kwa Zida Zonse za Makolo
Wapadera: "Ndani akupereka mkazi uyu ndi mwamuna uyu kuti akwatirane?
Yankho: (Makolo onse pamodzi): "Timachita."
Osati Mawu Othandizira Mabanja
- Akafika kumapeto kwa kanjira, bambo kapena makolo a mkwatibwi amamukumbatira ndikumukumbatira. Palibe mawu amanenedwa.
- Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi akuyenda pamsewu osayendayenda, amatha kuyenda kumabanja awo, kuwapatsa maluwa ndi kukumbatirana, asanakumane pa guwa la nsembe.
Mawu Owuziridwa Akazi
Wopatsa: "Ndani apatsa mkazi uyu kuti akwatiwe ndi mwamuna uyu?"
Yankho: "Amadzipereka okha, koma ndidalitsa banja lake."
Madalitso Okha
Wopusa: "Kodi dzina ( dzina ) liri ndi madalitso (banja) kuti akwatire (dzina)?
Yankho: "( Iye / iye ) amachita."
Dalitso Lalikulu
Ophwanya: "( Mayina a Makolo ), kodi mumagwirizana ndi chisankho cha mwana wanu kuti adziphatikize pamodzi m'banja ( dzina ), ndipo mumalonjeza kuti mumulandira monga membala wa banja lanu kuyambira lero?
Yankho: "Ndi chikondi m'mitima yathu chifukwa ( dzina ) ndi ( dzina ), timachita mosangalala."
Pamene kholo liribe Longer Alive
Woperewera: "Ndani akupereka mkazi uyu kuti akwatiwe ndi mwamuna uyu?"
Yankho: "Pamalo mwa onse omwe asonkhana apa, ndi onse omwe sangathe kukhala ndi ife lero, ndimachita."
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Ophwanya: "Kodi banja ili liri ndi madalitso a banja lawo chifukwa cha ukwatiwu?"
Yankho: "Podziwa kuti ( kholo lakufa ) ankakonda ndikuthandizira mgwirizanowu monga momwe ndikuchitira, ndimapereka mdalitso wanga kwaulere."
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Yankho: "Chifukwa cha iwo omwe ali ndi ife , ndi omwe adatsogolera, ndikudalitsa mgwirizanowu."
Kulemekeza Chikondi cha Banja Lanu
Odziwika: "Lero, pamene tikulowa ( dzina ) ndi ( dzina ) muukwati, timakondwerera pamene akuyambitsa banja latsopano.
Komabe tikudziwanso kuti nthambi yatsopano ya banja idzalimbikitsidwa ndi kupindula ndi chikondi, miyambo, ndi chidziwitso cha mizu yawo ya banja.
Kodi inu ( maina a makolo ) mungadalitse ( maina a banja ) muukwati wawo? Kodi mudzawasangalalira nthawi zawo zachisangalalo, ndi kulimbikitsa iwo ndi banja lawo panthawi yamavuto? "
Yankhani: "Tidzatero."
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Ophwanya malamulo: "Okwatirana okongolawa sanafike pano pokhapokha okha, amakukondani ndi kusamalidwa ndi inu, mabanja awo, malingana ndi inu kuti mudye chakudya, kudziwa, kutsogolera, ndi chikondi. Kuyambira lero, iwo amafunikira thandizo lanu m'njira zosiyanasiyana, koma adzalimbikitsabe chithandizocho.
"Ndili ndi malingaliro awa, ndikufunsa ( mayina a kholo ), ngati oimira banja lanu: kodi mutenga izi ( mwamuna / mkazi ), ( dzina ), m'banja lanu ndi m'mitima mwanu?
Yankhani: "Tidzatero."
(Wowonongeka akubwereza funsoli ku gulu lina la makolo, amenenso amayankha "Tidzafuna.")
Ophwanya: "Mulole madalitso a banja lawo apitirire m'mabanja anu kwamuyaya."
Kupereka ndi Ulemu
Wovomerezeka: "Ukwati uli wokha mdalitso, koma odalitsidwa awiri ndi awiri omwe amabwera ku guwa la ukwati ndi kuvomereza ndi chikondi cha mabanja awo ndi abwenzi. Ndani ali ndi mwayi wopereka mkazi uyu kuti akwatiwe ndi mwamuna uyu?
Yankho: "Chifukwa cha banja lake lachikondi ndi abwenzi, ndimatero."
Pogwiritsa ntchito mawu awa, mwambo wopereka mkwatibwi ukhoza kukhala mphindi yakuphatikizira ndi kulemekeza banja lanu la chiyambi, pamene mukuyamba banja latsopano pamodzi.