Pali ziŵerengero zambiri, maphunziro, ndi mfundo zokhuza maukwati okhala pamodzi. Ambiri amaganiza kuti anthu omwe amakhala pamodzi amakhala pachiopsezo chachikulu chokwatirana. Kusankha ngati kukhala pamodzi popanda kukwatira kapena kukhala pamodzi ndi banja la "test-test" ndi kusankha kwapadera. Kuwona zotsatira ndi zowonongeka n'kopindulitsa kuti muthe kupanga chisankho chodziwika bwino kwa inu.
Lipoti la National Institute of Child Health and Human Development lipoti:
"Kukhazikika kwa anthu, kamodzi kawirikawiri, tsopano ndi kofunika: Ofufuzawa adapeza kuti oposa theka (54 peresenti) ya maukwati onse oyambirira pakati pa 1990 ndi 1994 adayamba ndi kukwatirana osakwatirana. Iwo amawonetsa kuti ambiri mwa anyamata ndi anyamata a zaka zaukwati lero khalani ndi nthawi yambiri mu ubale wokhala pamodzi.
"... Kukhala ndi mgwirizano wokhazikika ndi wosasuntha kuposa maukwati komanso kuti kusakhazikika kwawonjezeka"
Zoonadi
- Kukhala pamodzi kumaonedwa kuti ndi kovuta kwambiri kuposa kukwatira.
- Mabanja okwana 50% oyambirira amakhala okwatirana.
- Ku United States ndi ku UK, maanja omwe amakhala pamodzi ali pachiopsezo chachikulu chokwatira kusiyana ndi mabanja omwe sali okwatirana.
- Maanja omwe amakhala pamodzi asanakwatirane amatha kusudzulana kumayambiriro kwaukwati wawo. Ngati ukwati wawo ukhala zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndiye kuti chiopsezo chawo chokwatirana n'chofanana ndi maanja amene sanakhale nawo pachibwenzi asanalowe m'banja.
- Mabanja ogwirizana amakhala ndi chiwerengero chosiyana pakati pa anthu okwatirana ndipo chiwerengero cha chiyanjano ndicho gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a okwatirana.
- Mabanja ogwirizana amakhala okhulupilika.
- Poyerekeza ndi omwe akukonzekera kukwatira , anthu okhalamo amakhala ndi khalidwe lachikhalidwe chosauka. Amakonda kukhala ndi nkhondo yambiri komanso chiwawa komanso osangalala kwambiri.
- Mabanja ogwirizana amakhala ndi ndalama zochepa ndipo osachepera amakhala olemera kuposa anzawo omwe ali pabanja m'tsogolo.
- Poyerekeza ndi anthu okwatirana, okhalamo amakhala ndi vuto lopanikizika komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Zoonadi Mumamva Zambiri
- Mayiko a ku France ndi ku Germany omwe amakhala pamtendere amakhala ndi chiopsezo chochepa chothetsa banja.
- Ngati kugwirizana kuli kochepa kwa mwamuna wam'tsogolo wamunthu ndipo akukonzekera kukwatirana, palibe chiopsezo chokwanira kuti athetse banja.
- Ku US, mabanja okwatirana omwe amaphunzira maphunziro asanakwatirane kapena uphungu sioopsa kwambiri kuti athetse banja.
Chigamulo chokhala ndi chofunika chanu chimadalira inu nonse monga banja. Sili bwino kunyalanyaza njira zingapo ndi mavuto ndi lingaliro loyambirira. Muyeneradi kulingalira za cholinga chanu chokhala pamodzi. Kodi ndizosavuta? Kodi ndikutenga nthawi yambiri pamodzi? Kodi simukudziwa za chiyanjano ndipo mukufuna kupanga chisankho chodziwa bwino? Kapena, kodi ndi chiyambi chabe cha ukwati? Kumbukirani kuti maanja omwe amakhala pamodzi akuwoneka kuti ali ndi zotsatira zabwino kwambiri pamene atsimikizirana kale.
Mphamvu ya Inertia
Maanja akuyenera kuzindikira za "mphamvu zozizwitsa." Zimakhala zovuta kuti zitheke chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa ndalama mu ubalewu pakapita nthawi.
Chimene chimachitika ndi chakuti banja lomwe silingakwatire limakhala lopanda pang'onopang'ono kulowa m'banja. Anthu omwe amakhala pamodzi ndi cholinga cha ukwati sali pachiopsezo, okha omwe alibe chidziwitso chodziwika chodzipereka.
Kulimbana ndi Kusankha Kuti Ukwatirane
Mabanja ena "amanyengerera" mopanda chikumbumtima kupyolera mu kusintha kwakukulu kwa ubale, pamene ena amapanga zisankho zowonjezereka ndi zolinga zokhudzana nazo. Mabanja omwe amachititsa kuti apitirizebe kukambirana bwino. Chisankho chosadzimangirira kulowa muukwati, monga atakhala pamodzi, ndi pamene mmodzi kapena onse awiri akudzipezera kuti akuvomera kumangiriza mfundo chifukwa kukwatira kumawoneka ngati sitepe yotsatira. Izi kawirikawiri ndi njira yopanda nzeru yopangira zomwe zimayenera kukhala kudzipereka kwa moyo wonse monga ukwati.
Pomalizira, kugwirizanitsa anthu kungakhale koyenera kwa anthu ena omwe ali pamkhalidwe wabwino. Banja liyenera kuyang'ana zenizeni (ndi nthano), khalani pa tsamba lomwelo lomwe likufuna kuti azigwirizana ndi zomwe akuyembekezera kuti achite. Mwamwayi tili ndi kafukufuku wolimba komanso mfundo zothandizira maanja kuti apange chisankho chabwino komanso tsogolo lawo.
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Kodi Kusakanizirana Kumateteza Kusudzulana? ndi Glenn T. Stanton
Kumvetsetsa Kwambiri Kwambiri Kukhazikika Kwa Mgwirizano: Kuyanjana Kwaukwati Usanakwatirane ndi Catherine L. Cohan ndi Stacey Kleinbaumb
Kulimbitsa Ukwati Usanakwatirane ndi Ruth Weston, Lixia Qu ndi David de Vaus
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Vuto Lobisika la Kugwirizana kwa Dr. Scott Stanley
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