Ife tonse takhala tiri kumeneko. Oitanidwa ku phwando makumi awiri ndi asanu adatumizidwa m'kalasi, akudziwika bwino ndi tsiku limene RSVP, ndipo tsikulo likubwera ndikupita ndizing'ono kapena osayankha. Mwinamwake muyenera kupereka chiwerengero pamutu pa phwando kapena kukonza chakudya chokwanira phwando kwanu kunyumba. Mwinamwake inu munkafuna kuti musangalatse zokondweretsa . Ziribe kanthu chifukwa, kuyika khutu la RSVP paitanidwe kukutanthauza kuti mukuyembekezera yankho, ndipo popeza mudali wokoma mtima kuitanira munthu, ayenera kubwezera kukoma mtima ndi yankho losavuta, pomwepo?
Chabwino, mwinamwake osati ndendende. Zedi, nthawi zonse padzakhala makolo omwe sakhala ndi RSVP chifukwa sangathe kuvutika, koma pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe simunamvepo kuchokera kwa makolo awo. Ena a iwo mwina sanawonepo kuyitanidwa. Mu zaka zanga monga kholo la ana a sukulu, ndapulumutsa oposa oyamba okayika ndi ovundukuka, oitanidwa kale-tsiku-tsiku-phwando la phwando la kubadwa kuchokera ku phompho pansi pa chikwama.
Makolo ena sangamvetsetse zomwe RSVP imatanthauza. Nthaŵi ina ndalandirapo phwando la phwando la kubadwa lomwe linali ndi RSVP tsiku limodzi, kenako "kudandaula kokha" pamzere wotsatira. Pamene ndinaitana amayi kuti adziwe kuti tidzakhalapo, adadandaula za mayankho ochepa omwe adalandira. Inde, panali nthawi yomwe Emily Post angakhale atalimbikitsa aliyense kudziwa ndi kuyankha moyenera kuitanidwe, koma tiyeni tiwone, makolo ambiri lerolino ali otanganidwa kwambiri kuti asawerenge maimelo awo onse, osaloledwa kutsegula masamba a malingaliro abwino.
Kubwerera m'masiku omwe aliyense anakhala pansi powerenga Emily Post, amadziwanso anthu onse omwe akuwapempha RSVP ku zochitika. Ngati mmodzi mwa alendo omwe adaitanidwa sakulephera kuyankha, wothandizira phwando angawaitane ndikuwafunsanso kuti awone yankho. Kwa maphwando a tsiku lakubadwa kwa ana, ndi zosavuta kuchita chimodzimodzi kwa abwenzi apamtima ndi achibale anu (ngakhale simukuyenera), koma lamulo lodziwika, la tsopano la sukulu lomwe likufuna kuitanira kalasi lonse, kuphatikizapo ndondomeko ina ya sukulu yomwe salola kugawidwa kwa mauthenga a makolo ena, ndipo mukhoza kuona momwe vuto lonse la RSVP wophunzira nawo lakhala lovuta poyamba.
Kotero, kodi ndondomeko ya phwando, yani-ine-yofunikira-kholo-chiwerengero choti ndichite? Chowonadi chiri, osati kuitana ana okha omwe muli ndi mtundu wina wa mauthenga; palibe njira yotsimikizika yoperekera RSVP kwa woitanidwa aliyense. Komabe, pali njira zingapo zomwe mungayesere kuthandizira kulimbikitsa bwino.
- Phatikizani Zosankha Zomwe Zimayankha
Zaka zingapo kumbuyo, ndinayamba kuwonjezera imelo ndi nambala ya foni pambuyo pa tsiku la RSVP. Ndalandira mauthenga angapo a imelo - zonse zomwe ndikudandaula - zomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti mwina sindinalandirepo foni. Muzokambirana kenakake ndi makolo ena, zimapangitsa kuti anthu ambiri akumva zovuta kuitana wina yemwe sakudziwa kuti asiye kuitanira phwando. Ochepa chabe, kwenikweni, adanena kuti amamva kuti ndi ovuta chifukwa akupanga zifukwa zina osati chifukwa chenichenicho chimene sichidzachitikire. Wopanda munthu (sindikuyenera kuti ndiyankhule ndi munthu) mauthenga a maimelo anandipatsa mwayi wopewa zovuta koma komabe ndidziwe kuti adalandiradi pempho, koma mwatsoka adayenera kuchepa.
Kutumizirana mameseji kutchuka, ndinayamba kuwonjezera nambala yanga ya foni kuti ndiyambe nawo phwando, komanso ndemanga yomwe inanenedwa kuti ingagwiritsidwe ntchito poyitana kapena kulemberana.
Popeza kuti ndikuwonjezera mawu, gawo langa la RSVP lakula kwambiri.
Zikuwoneka kuti njira zina zomwe mungapereke popempha mauthenga apakompyuta, mumakhala ndi mayankho ambiri, choncho pitirizani kuwonjezera ma imelo ndi mauthenga anu pamitanidwe anu.
- Bweretsani "Zodandaula Pokha"
Mawu akuti "kudandaula kokha" pa chiitanidwe amatanthauza kuti simukusowa RSVP ngati mukufuna kudza, koma chonde pitani ndipo mulole womverayo adziwe ngati simungathe. Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri amawoneka kuti akuchita zosiyana: yankhani ngati akubwera ndikunyalanyaza pempho ngati sakuli.
Mmalo mogwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Kudandaula kokha," bwanji osangowonjezera kalata yomwe imanena chinachake monga "RSVP kokha ngati mukufuna kukakhalapo. Zonse zomwe sizinayankhidwe zidzatengedwa ngati ayi. "Popeza izi ndizo zomwe anthu ambiri amachita, ndi njira yabwino yowunikira kuti wina amene saitanidwe sayenera kuwonekera tsiku la phwando.
Inde, izi zikhoza kukhala zachipongwe (ndikupita, ndikutsatira malamulo akale a khalidwe labwino), koma moona mtima, kukonzekera phwando la gulu lalikulu la ana ndilovuta popanda kukhala ndi funso ngati anthu 16 Yankho lake lidzawonetsedwa patsiku lomaliza ndikupanga kusowa kwa keke ya kubadwa. Komabe, ngati mukukumva ngati mawu ngati amenewa angakulowetseni pamsonkhano wotsatira wa PTA, pitirizani kuwuimba mlandu wina. Ngati chochitika chanu chikuchitikira pamalo ena a phwando la ana, mwachitsanzo, onetsani mu malo anu kuti malowa "akufuna" chiwerengero cha mutu woyenera ndi tsiku lina ndipo sangathe kulandira zambiri kuposa zomwe zikuwerengedwera. Kukhala nawo kunyumba? Lembani wodwalayo - ngakhale mutagwiritsa ntchito imodzi (panthawi yomwe phwando likuchitika, mukhoza kunena kuti munasintha maganizo anu ndipo mwaganiza kuti mupite ndi pizza mmalo mwake).
- Apatseni Chifukwa Choyankha
Simungathe kukopa aliyense kuti ayankhe, koma mukhoza kuyankhapo pang'ono polembapo chifukwa chake mukufunikira yankho (osati kuwerengera mutu). Mwachitsanzo, ndimakonda kusangalatsa zokondweretsa zikondwerero za ana anga. Izi zatsimikizira kuti ndi zovuta ngati ana anga asuntha zaka za sukulu, ndipo pakhala nthawi zambiri ndakhala ndikuyenda ndi anthu ochepa okha, okonda zambiri. Ndakhala ndikulembapo mawu akuti, "Chonde yankhani ndi mayina omveka bwino a dzina la mwana wanu kuti apange phwando." Izi zingalimbikitse ena mwachangu kuti apange kudzipereka mwamsanga ndipo asawonetsere kuti mwana wawo amusiye. zosangalatsa.
Mungagwiritse ntchito njira yomweyi kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukufunikira yankho lolondola kuti mutsimikize kuti muli ndi makapu okwanira kapena masewera a masewera a phwando. Nthawi zina, makolo samadziwa kuti nambalayi ndi yofunikira pokonzekera phwando la tsiku lobadwa, choncho palibe cholakwika ndi kuwafotokozera mokoma mtima.
Pamapeto pake, palibe njira yotsimikizirira kuti mlendo aliyense adzayankha nthawi yake (kapena ayi), koma njira zingapo izi ziyenera kulimbikitsa mayankho ambiri kuposa "RSVP ndi 10/12" akhoza nkhokwe.