Kodi munayamba mwakhalapo pa zokambirana zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala omasuka? Pali njira zowonongolera zokambiranazo kumbuyo kwa chinthu chomwe chili choyenera popanda kumuchititsa manyazi. Komabe, sizingatheke nthawi zonse pamene mukuchita ndi munthu amene sangatenge chinyengo chobisika.
Zindikirani Kenaka Yambitsaninso
Ngati wina ayamba kuyankhula za chinthu chovuta kapena kukupangani, kuvomereza kosavuta musanayambe mutu wa chinthu chosiyana ndi chinthu choyenera kumakhala kokwanira.
Anthu ambiri amadziwa zomwe mukuchita ndikuyenda nanu.
Zitsanzo za momwe mungatsitsire zokambiranazo:
- Pamene wina akubweretsa mutu womwe ukhoza kuyambitsa mkangano pa phwando, mungafune kunena zinthu monga, "Pali maganizo osiyanasiyana pa nkhaniyi. Bwanji sitinakambirane chinachake chosangalatsa, monga ulendo wanu womaliza kuzilumbazi? "
- Ngati wina akunena zakupita kwanu yemwe anakukhumudwitsani, munganene kuti, "Uku kunali kupasuka kovuta , koma kunandipatsa mpata wokumana ndi anthu ena okondwerera omwe amasangalala kwambiri monga momwe ndikuchitira. Kodi munayamba mwachita tango ya Argentina? "
- Pamene munthu akukukumbutsani kuti simunapeze ntchito yomwe mukuyembekeza, munganene kuti, "Inde, ndinakhumudwa, koma kuyankhulana kunandipatsa lingaliro labwino lomwe ndikufunika kulingalira pamene ndikupempha ntchito zina. "
- Ngati munthu apanga ndemanga yoyenera pazinthu zomwe iwe kapena mkazi wina wavala, muthokozeni pazodziwitsa za mafashoni a amayi ndikufunseni zomwe amaganiza za zovala za nyengoyi.
- Pamene zokambiranazo zimachokera ku zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa kuti zikhale zovuta kapena zokhumudwitsa, nenani chinachake chonga, "Izi ndi zomveka, koma ndikufuna kumve zambiri za (zomwe mukukambirana poyamba).
Kutamandidwa pa Chidziwitso
Njira yabwino kwambiri yolankhulirana ndiyo kuyamika munthu pa chinthu chomwe chimangogwirizana ndi mutuwo.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati akutsutsa nkhani ya ndale yomwe mumaphatikizapo, munganene kuti, "Ndimasangalala ndi kumvetsa kwanu. Kodi mkhalidwe wanu ndi wotani? "
Gwiritsani ntchito Mawu kapena Mawu Otsutsa pa Kukambirana Kosiyana
Nthawi zina anthu amayamba kuyankhula za zinthu zomwe simukuzifuna kapena zomwe simukuzidziwa, ndipo mulibe chilichonse choti mungapereke. Kuyankhulana kamodzi kungakhale kosasangalatsa, ndipo muli ndi kusankha. Mukhoza kuwamvetsera akusewera mobwerezabwereza, kapena mungathe kuyang'ana kutsegulira kuti musamukire kwinakwake. Mvetserani mawu kapena mawu omwe amapereka mpata wosintha magalimoto.
Nazi njira zina zomwe mungalankhulire pa mutu womwe mukufuna kukambirana nawo:
- Ngati munthu ayamba kufotokozera zomwe zimakhala zozizira m'mafashoni, ndipo mawonekedwe atsopano sakusangalatsani inu, nenani chinachake monga, "Kuyankhula za ozizira mapewa, kodi mungakhulupirire kuti kutentha kunasintha msanga tsiku limodzi?" Ndiye akhoza kupitiriza kukambirana za nyengo.
- Munthu wina atasiya kuyankhula za masewera ake atsopano a golf, ndipo amakugwetsani misonzi, atangomva kugunda mpira pamtunda, mukhoza kunena kuti mtundu wobiriwira ndiwo mtundu womwe mumakonda. Kenaka kambiranani chifukwa chake mumakonda mtundu wobiriwira komanso momwe zimabweretsera kukumbukira kukumbukira kuyenda m'nkhalango.
- Pamene odwala amachotsedwa kukambirana za madzi a thupi, mafupa osweka, ndi nkhani zina zomwe zingapangitse anthu ambiri kugwedezeka, mwamsanga pamene mmodzi wa iwo akunena kuti "kugwedeza," azinena zonga, "Kuyankhula za zokopa, mwawona zatsopano Komiti yokhazikika pa Netflix? Zinali zoseketsa kwambiri, zinasiyidwa pamagulu. "
Kusintha kwa Mutu Mwachangu
Njira inanso yothetsera nkhani yomwe simukufuna kukambirana ndiyo kuyembekezera munthu kuti amugwire mpweya ndikusintha mutu wake kuti ukhale wosangalatsa. Anthu ambiri atenga chidwi, koma ngati sichigwira ntchito, yesetsani. Zikomo pamene iwe uchita izo kotero munthuyo samakuzindikira iwe ngati wotsutsa kapena akuganiza kuti siwe wokambirana bwino.
Nazi zitsanzo za momwe mungasinthire mwamsanga nkhaniyi:
- Pamene anthu ayamba kukamba za munthu yemwe salipo, onetsani buffet (kapena chinthu china chopanda moyo) ndipo perekani ndemanga za momwe kukonzekera kwakukulu kuyenera kukhalira.
- Ngati munthu akunena kuti ali ndi vuto ndi kampani yomwe mumagwira ntchito, mukhoza kumwetulira ndikufunsa ngati ali ndi ziweto zilizonse, ndipo ngati zili choncho, ndizitani. Ayenera kutenga zomwe abwana anu akulepheretsa kukambirana.
- Pamene munthu ayamba kutsutsa mnzanu kapena mnzanu, yesani kumwetulira kwakukulu ndikufunseni za tchuthi lake lotsiriza.
Khalani Otsogolera
Pali nthawi zomwe anthu sangathe kutengeka kapena sakusiya mutu, ngakhale ziri zovuta kuti muyesetse kusintha. Izi ndi nthawi zomwe muyenera kuchita zina zovuta ndikudziwitsa kuti mumakonda kukamba za zina.
Nazi zinthu zina zomwe munganene:
- Pepani, koma nkhaniyi imabweretsa kukumbukira zinthu zoipa, ndipo ndikufuna kukamba zina.
- Sindikudziwa kalikonse pa nkhaniyi. Kodi tingakambirane zomwe timasangalala nazo?
- Sindingathe kukambirana zachipembedzo ndi anthu omwe samvetsa chikhulupiriro changa. Mwa njira, ndimakonda mkanda wako. Amatsindika mtundu wa maso anu.
- Ife sitingatsutsane momveka pa ndale . Nchifukwa chiyani sitikupeza zomwe tikugwirizana kuti tikambirane?
Dzikhululukire Wekha
Ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyesera kuti mukhale osamala, pali anthu ena amene amanyamulira kutali pazovuta zomwe simukufuna kukambirana. M'malo mokangana kapena kukhumudwa chifukwa chosintha nkhaniyo kuti ikhale yosasangalatsa, yang'anani mozungulira ndikukuuzani kuti mukufunikira kupeza chipinda cha amayi.
Ngati mwasankha kubwerera kwa munthu yemweyo, bwerani ndi chida china chokambirana. Tikuyembekeza, munthuyo adayiwalika pamutu wosamvetsetseka kapena kuzindikira mutuwo sikutseguka kukambirana. Ngati sichoncho, zonse muyenera kuchita ndikuti, "Pepani, koma ndikufunika kupita tsopano."
Konzekerani
Njira imodzi yabwino yolimbana ndi nkhani zovuta ndi kukonzekera ndi mndandanda wa oyamba kukambirana za nkhani zomwe simukumakambirana. Mvetserani mawu kapena mawu omwe amakupatsani mwayi wosintha nkhaniyo.
Nawa malingaliro a nkhani zomwe anthu ambiri angathe kuzigwirizana nazo:
- Kusintha kwa nyengo
- Magulu a masewera a m'madera (pokhapokha pali otsutsana kwambiri omwe angayambe kukangana)
- Masewera otchuka a TV kapena mafilimu
- Malo odyera okondedwa
- Malo okongola a tchuthi kwa osakwatira, mabanja, kapena mabanja