Ukwati wanu ndi chimodzi mwa masiku ofunikira kwambiri pa moyo wanu, choncho ndizomveka kuganizira mozama za omwe adzakhale mu phwando lanu laukwati. Okwatira akazi ali ndi maudindo , kotero ganizirani za anthu amene angakhale abwino kwambiri pa ntchitoyo komanso ubale wanu ndi munthu aliyense.
Miyambo ndi Zoona
Zina mwa malamulo akale a chisankho cha mkwatibwi zinapangitsanso vuto linalake panthawi yokonzekera ukwati.
M'mbuyomu, okwatirana ndi abambo amayenera kukhala ndi chiwerengero chofanana cha amai ndi abambo ku ukwati. Komabe, si nthawi zonse zomwe zingakhale zabwino kwambiri pa mwambowu, kotero simusowa kuti muzichita bwino kuti muzichita bwino.
Lamulo lina lakale ndiloti muyenera kukhala ndi nambala yina ya okwatirana ndi nambala ya alendo . Icho ndichabechabe, ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kukhala ndi abambo 12 okwatirana ngati muli ndi anthu 50 okha. Zidakali kwa inu malinga ndi zofuna zanu komanso maubwenzi ndi anthu omwe akukhudzidwa. Ngati mukufuna kuti onse omwe ali pamsonkhano wanu wachikwati, zikhale zenizeni kwa inu.
Choyamba Choyamba Choyamba
Musanayambe kulembetsa mndandanda wanu, muyenera kudziwa momwe angatenge akwatibwi omwe mukufuna mu ukwati wanu. Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira:
- Ndili ndi malo angati omwe mudzakhala nawo paguwa lansembe
- Mtengo wa munthu aliyense mu phwando lanu laukwati
- Ndi anthu angati omwe adzapite ku ukwatiwo
- Kukula kwa mabanja kumbali zonse
Lembani Mndandanda Wanu
Tsopano ndi nthawi yopanga mndandanda wa omwe adzakwatirane nawo. Lembani zolemba pambali pa dzina la munthu aliyense, monga momwe mwakhalira ndi abwenzi , ubwenzi wanu ndi iye, kaya munthuyo akufunika kukhala woyang'anira, ngati atenga sewero lapitalo, ndi nthawi yochuluka bwanji iye ali ndi maudindo.
Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira pamene mukulemba:
- Kodi munthu angakwanitse kukhala mu ukwati wanu? Mudzasowa lingaliro lovuta la momwe lidzawonongere munthu aliyense.
- Kodi munthuyo ndi wodalirika, kapena nthawi zonse amachedwa ? Mukhoza kuzindikira izi pokhudzana ndi nthawi yake, ngati nthawi zonse amakuyimirani, kapena ngati akunena kuti achite chinachake koma samatsatira.
- Kodi ali ndi nthawi? Wina amene ali ndi mwana watsopano kapena ntchito angakhale wotanganidwa ndi maudindo ake atsopano ndipo alibe nthawi yomwe mukufuna kuti apange kukonzekera ukwati.
Nkhani za Banja
Ngati mukukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kupanga chisankho koma muyenera kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha okwatirana, ganizirani za ubale wanu komanso amene adzakhale pafupi nthawi yayitali pambuyo paukwati. Nthawi zambiri, abambo amabwera koyamba chifukwa adzakhala omwe adakalipo, ziribe kanthu. Komabe, ngati mumachokera ku banja lalikulu, muyenera kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha achibale mu phwando lanu laukwati.
Nazi njira zina zothandizira kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha mamembala:
- Sankhani okha omwe ali akuluakulu.
- Sankhani mamembala omwe amakhala kumudzi wanu.
- Sankhani mbale wanu pa msuwani wakutali.
Kumbukirani kuti pali maudindo ena olemekezeka kwa anthu a m'banja lanu kapena anthu omwe mungafune kuwaphatikiza.
Mwinamwake akhoza kupereka mapulogalamu, kuthandiza pogona, kapena kupanga chofufumitsa pakhomo.
Zoyembekeza ndi Udindo
Muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukuyembekeza kuchokera kwa okwatirana anu. Kodi mukufuna kuti iwo azichita nawo mwadongosolo ndikukonza zovala? Kapena mukufuna kuti iwo aganizire mozama pazochita zawo pa mwambowu? Kodi mumayembekezera kuti iwo azichita nawo kuvina kapena masewera apadera panthawi ya phwando? Posankha phwando laukwati wanu, ganizirani munthu aliyense malinga ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso maudindo omwe ali nawo.
Mwamuna Waulemu Kapena Mkazi Wabwino
Kodi mnzanu wapamtima kapena wachibale wanu ndi abambo? Mwachikhalidwe, maphwando achikwati anali ndi amuna kumbali imodzi ndi akazi pamzake. Komabe, izi sizinali lamulo. Mungasankhe munthu wina yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu kuti akuimirireni tsiku lanu lalikulu.
Amuna Ambiri Olemekezeka
Mtsikana wa ulemu ayenera kukhala mkwatibwi amene mumamverera pafupi kwambiri. Ngati mutapeza kuti mwadula pakati pa anthu awiri, mungasankhe kukhala ndi akazi awiri a ulemu. Onetsetsani kuti mukuwonekeratu zomwe mukuyembekeza kuchokera kwa aliyense ndikuyesetsanso kuthetsa maudindo awo, nthawi, komanso pambuyo pa ukwatiwo.
Kufotokozera Akazi Athu Amuna
M'mbuyomu, akwatibwi amangotenga foni ndikufunsa abwenzi awo kuti akwatire. Tsopano zakhala zopanga zazikulu kwambiri. Akazi okwatirana amawombera funsoli kwa anthu omwe akufuna mu phwando lawo laukwati. Izi zimawonjezera chisangalalo cha ulemu.
Njira zowonetsera zokondweretsa akazi ogona akazi:
- Khalani ndi maluwa kapena mphatso yamtengo wapatali kuti aperekedwe kwa wokwatirana aliyense yemwe akuyembekezera kuti akwatirane ndi khadi akufunseni, "Kodi iwe udzakhala mkwatibwi wanga?"
- Pempherani atsikana kunyumba kwanu kapena kuti mudye chakudya ndipo perekani aliyense pulogalamuyi ndi pempho la mkwatibwi. Mukhozanso kupatsanso chosakaniza ndi magalasi omwe amadzipangira okha omwe akuphatikizapo dzina lawo ndi malingaliro awo.
- Perekani munthu aliyense chidutswa cha zokongoletsera zomwe zikugwirizana ndi chiyanjano chanu ndi ndemanga kumufunsa kuti akhale wokwatiwa wanu.
- Manga botolo la vinyo kapena champagne ndi uthenga waumwini wa chifukwa chake mukufuna kuti akhale wokwatiwa wanu.
- Ndondomeko yosamalira wokondedwa payekha. Izi zikhoza kukhala thumba la zokongoletsa ndi milomo, mankhwala, tsitsi, ndi chokoleti.
- Perekani msungwana aliyense kuti azisankha yekha "Kodi iwe ukhale wokwatiwa wanga" chithunzi chojambula ndi chithunzi cha iwe ndi iye kuchokera ku phwando losangalatsa.
- Khalani ndi phwando lofuna kusaka nyama. Khalani ndi zifukwa zokwanira zomwe zimawathandiza kuti aziganiza mpaka atapeza "mphotho," yomwe ingakhale bokosi lapadera lomwe liri ndi zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe mukudziwa kuti iwo angakonde. Musaiwale kuyika cholembera cholembedwa ndi manja ndikuwapempha kuti akhale okwatiwa anu. Zina mwa zinthu zomwe zili mu bokosi zingaphatikizepo chithunzi cha chithunzi, nsalu imodzi yokhala ndi chovala chimodzi, mkhosi, kapena chinthu china chokhudza ubale wanu.
Kumva Chisoni
Pambuyo pa chisangalalo chosankha ndi kupereka kwa operekeza anu, konzekerani kukhumudwa . Izi zikhoza kubwera kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe simungathe kumuphatikiza ngati mkwatibwi, kapena akhoza kukhala wina amene akufuna kukhala mdzakazi wanu wa ulemu.
Ziri choncho, ndizofunika kukonzekera, koma kumbukirani kuti simungapangitse aliyense kukhala wosangalala.
Nazi zina zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse kupweteka:
- Khalani ndi ndondomeko yokonzedweratu kwa iwo omwe akufotokoza malingaliro awo.
- Pewani kukuuzani ngati wina aliyense kapena mumamva pafupi ndi munthu wina, ngakhale ndi choncho. Mukhoza kutchula malo awo, udindo wa banja, kapena kuti mukulepheretsa phwando laukwati kwa akuluakulu okha. Konzani zomwe munganene kuti musadzanong'oneze bondo pambuyo pake.
- Fotokozani momwe mumayamikirira ubwenzi wanu, ndipo simukufuna kumupempha zambiri pa nthawiyi.
- Khalani ndi maudindo ena a ulemu kwa omwe sanasankhidwe kuti akhale okwatirana. Pemphani pempho lanu kuti likhale losangalatsa ndikuwonetsa kuti mumayamikira ubwenzi wake. Mwachitsanzo, mungamuuze kuti mungamufune kuti aziyang'anira pa phwando la phwando pambuyo paukwati chifukwa ali ndi ubwino komanso wokondweretsa.
Khalani Kumvetsetsa
Osakwiya ngati winawake akukutembenuzira kuti akhale wokwatiwa wanu, mosasamala chifukwa chake. Munthuyo sangakhale ndi ndalama kapena nthawi yomwe imatenga kuti akhale mkwatibwi, kapena akhoza kukhala wodzidalira kwambiri kuti ayende pansi pamsewu patsogolo pa tchalitchi chodzaza anthu. Mvetserani mwachidwi zofuna zake ndikumuuzeni kuti akutha kupita ku mwambowu ndi phwando.
Ngati Simukufunsidwa
Winawake yemwe mumamudziwa mwina akukwatirana, koma simunapemphe kuti mukhale mkwatibwi. Musati mutenge izo. Mkwatibwi ali pansi pa kupsyinjika kwakukulu komwe kumabwera kwa iye kuchokera kumbali zonse, ndipo sakusowa masewera achiyanjano pakalipano. Tengani msewu wapamwamba ndikupatseni chithandizo ngati mungathe kuchita chinachake. Kumvetsetsa kwanu, kukoma mtima, ndi kupatsa kwanu kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhazikitse ubwenzi wanu.