Poise ndi imodzi mwa mayikowa akuti munthu aliyense akhoza kudziwa. Merriam-Webster amalongosola kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala "wozindikirika ndi kuphweka mosavuta kapenanso kubereka." Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kukhala ndi chifuwa kumakhala bwino mu khungu lanu. Izi sizimakhala zosavuta nthawi zonse, makamaka ngati mumatsutsidwa pa malo odziwa bwino ntchito. Kunyenga anthu kungakhumudwitse anthu, koma anthu okonzeka kwambiri ali okonzekera.
Merriam-Webster ananenanso kuti kukoma mtima kumatanthauza " kukhala wachifundo m'njira yosonyeza ulemu." Kukhala wachifundo, wachisomo, ndi wodzichepetsa kumakupangitsani kukhala munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri kukhala pafupi.
Mukamayang'ana munthu yemwe akuwoneka wokhazikika komanso wachifundo, mwina mukuganiza kuti ali ndi chidaliro ndipo sachita mantha kuti amusonyeza munthuyo. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe kholo lingathe kuchita kwa mwana ndi kumuphunzitsa kukhala wachifundo , wokwanira, ndi wodalirika. Ngati makolo sachita izi, zimakhala kwa munthuyo kuti adziwe m'mene angakhalire yekhayo.
Kumbukirani kuti simukuyenera kukhala olemera kapena amphamvu kukhala okonzeka komanso achisomo. Ziri zokhuza kudziwonetsa nokha wanu weniweni mwazochita, manja , ndi zomwe mumanena. Phunzirani malamulo abwino omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi zonse.
Nazi malingaliro omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mukwaniritse poise ndi chisomo:
- Kumbukirani kuti palibe munthu wangwiro. Kuyesetsa kukhala wangwiro kumakhumudwitsa ndipo kudzakhala ndi zotsatira zotsutsana ndi zomwe mukuyesera kuzikwaniritsa. M'malo mwake, phunzirani ku zolakwitsa zanu ndikupita patsogolo. Musamayembekezere kuti anthu ena angakhale angwiro , kapena mungakhumudwe nthawi zonse.
- Tangoganizani kuti mukukhala ndi chidaliro. Ngati mulibe chidaliro, yesani kuganiza mozama. Penyani ena omwe akuwoneka otsimikizika ndikulemba zolemba zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti aziwoneka choncho. Zitha kukhala momwe amayendera kapena kuti amawonekeratu anthu ali ndi diso pamene akukambirana .
- Imani bwino. Zindikirani kuti sindinanene kuti ndiimirire? Ndi chifukwa chakuti enafe ndi ofooka. Kutupa ndi kuyang'ana pansi kumakupatsani maonekedwe achisoni komanso kusiyana ndi kukhala wokonzeka komanso wodzidalira. Anthu ambiri amatha kuyang'ana kwambiri pamene akuima molimba mtima ndi mutu wawo wolimba ndi wong'ambika.
- Pewani kudzikuza. Poise alibe chochita ndi kudzikweza kapena kusuta , choncho musasokoneze awiriwo. Munthu wodzichepetsa amene amasamala za ena ndikuwapatsa nthawi yawo poyera akhoza kukhala wokonzeka kuposa munthu yemwe ali ndi cocky komanso wodzikuza.
- Mudzisunge. Chinthu chimodzi chimene inu muli nacho ndicho chokha chanu ndipo palibe wina aliyense akuphatikizapo zomwe mumakonda, moyo wanu, ndi umunthu wanu. Musayesere kukhala munthu amene simunali chifukwa chakuti fashoyo itangoyamba, muziyang'ana zomvetsa chisoni m'malo mokhazikika.
- Sungani chipiriro. Munthu wouma mtima samangokhalira kutaya nthawi yake . Ngati chinachake chikuchitika chomwe chikhoza kuwononga tsiku lanu, momwe mumagwirira ntchitoyi mumatsimikizira momwe mukukhalira. Mukusankha pamene chipiriro chanu chikuyesedwa. Mungathe kupsa mtima, koma izi zimakuchititsani kuti mukhale osasangalala. Zosankha zabwino ndikupeza njira zothetsera vutolo, kuzigwiritsa ntchito ngati kuphunzira, ndikuvomereza zomwe zachitika. Khalani oleza mtima ndi ena omwe sanadziwebe luso lofunikira.
- Khalani wophunzira wamuyaya. Anthu ambiri omwe amasonyeza poise ndi chisomo ali otseguka kwa chidziwitso chatsopano. Werengani mabuku, dziwani za chikhalidwe cha pop, tsatirani nkhani, khalani tech tech, ndipo phunzirani. Ngati mutapeza mutu womwe mukuufuna koma osadziŵa, chitani kafukufuku kuti mudziwe zonse za izo.
- Lekani kuyankhula ndi kumvetsera. Anthu angaganize kuti ndinu munthu wanzeru kwambiri padziko lonse ngati mumvetsera mwatcheru, samverani zomwe akunena, ndikuwonetsani kuti mwakhala mukugwira nawo ntchito pamene akuyankhula. Nod, kumwetulira, ndi kuseka nthawi zoyenera. Funsani mafunso kuti musunge zokambirana popanda nthawi zonse.
- Khalani otsimikiza koma osangalatsa. Simukuyenera kukhala Pollyanna-ish, koma musaganizire za zolakwika. Kuchita zimenezi kudzakulepheretsani, ndipo simudzasowa mtendere womwe mukufuna. Muli ndi mphamvu zambiri, ndipo muzitentha mofulumira ngati nthawi zonse mumawona mbali yoipa ya chinachake.
- Pezani cholinga pamoyo wanu ndipo pitani. Mutha kukhala mtundu wa munthu yemwe amatsogoleredwa kuti agwire bwino bizinesi. Tengani makalasi ndikuyankhulana ndi anthu pamlingo womwe mukufuna kukhala. Kapena mungakhale munthu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro , ndipo mukufuna kupanga kusiyana pakati pa zochitika zapantchito m'dziko kapena dziko. Pezani msuzi wa supu kapena banki ya chakudya ndikudzipereka. Mudzakhala otsimikiza kwambiri komanso wokonzeka ngati mutatsatira mayitanidwe anu.