Anthu ena amaganiza kuti anthu onse okondedwa amabadwa ndi zizoloŵezi zachilengedwe zomwe zimakopa ena. Ngakhale umunthu wobadwira ukhoza kukhala nawo gawo pa kutchuka, mochulukirapo kwambiri wokhudzana ndi makhalidwe ophunzirira. Anthu omwe akuzunguliridwa ndi anthu amakhala achifundo komanso okonda ena.
Ngati mukufuna kuonedwa kuti ndinu aulemu, muyenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino . Apo ayi, nthawi zonse mudzachita manyazi manyazi .
Sukulu Yophunzira za Zizolowezi
Asayansi ena amakhulupirira kuti kumatenga masiku 21 kuti achite chinthu chomwecho kuti apange chizolowezi. Komabe, pamene Phillipa Lally, wofufuza kafukufuku wa zaumoyo pa yunivesite ya London, adafufuza zizoloŵezi za anthu 96 omwe adafalitsidwa mu European Journal of Social Psychology , adazindikira kuti zinatenga masiku 66 kuti ayambe chizoloŵezi chatsopano.
Makhalidwe Abwino
Chofunika kwambiri kukumbukira ndi chakuti kulemekeza n'kofunikira ngati mukufuna anthu akuwoneni ngati munthu wachifundo. Kaya zimatenga masabata atatu kapena miyezi iwiri, ngati mukufuna kuti khalidwe lanu likhale lachilengedwe, muyenera kuphunzira ndi kuzichita tsiku ndi tsiku.
Pano pali zizolowezi zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe mumayenera kukhazikitsa:
- Khalani okoma ndi ochezeka. Mukamayandikira munthu mu bizinesi kapena pa phwando, kumwetulira, kutambasula dzanja lanu , ndi kupereka moni wachikondi ndi wokondweretsa. Khalani ndi zida zokambirana zoyambira ndipo musawope kuzigwiritsa ntchito. Gwiritsani ntchito dzina la munthu wina nthawi zingapo kukuthandizani kukumbukira. Kuchita zonsezi kumathandiza kuti munthu winayo azisangalala .
- Perekani anthu ena malo okwanira okwanira. Ambiri samakhala omasuka ndi anthu omwe sakudziwa bwino kuyandikira kwambiri . Ngati muwona kuti izi ndizochitika, tengani tsatani.
- Musanene chilichonse chimene mumachidziwa. Kupereka chidziwitso chochuluka (kapena TMI) posakhalitsa ndichabechabe ndipo kumapangitsa ena kusokoneza. Anthu ambiri omwe simudziwa bwino amakonda kusamva zonse za thanzi lanu kapena moyo wanu wachikondi. Iwo safunikanso kudziwa momwe mumapangira ndalama kapena kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe mwavala.
- Pewani miseche. Inde, ndikudziwa kuti anthu amakopeka ndi olankhula zinyalala m'ofesi , koma si njira yabwino yolemekezera. Iwo sadzakukhulupirirani inu kapena kukuwonani inu chinsinsi. Sungani zomwe mukuganiza kuti mukudziwa nokha. Mutha kuzindikira kuti miseche si yowona, ndipo izi zimangokuwoneka bwino kwambiri. Mwachizindikiro chomwecho, tembenukani ndi kupita njira ina pamene ena ayamba kukunena .
- Perekani anthu ngongole ndikuvomereza zomwe achita. Pamene membala wa gulu akupereka mzere wangwiro kuti akwaniritse zolinga zanu, onetsetsani kuti bwanayo akudziwa. Munthu wina amene akukugwiritsani ntchito ali ndi malingaliro abwino kwambiri, auzeni woyang'anira wanu kumene wachokera.
- Gwiritsani ntchito ulemu. Ndikudziwa kuti anthu akusowa chilakolako cha chilankhulo choipa komanso ndemanga zopweteka, koma izi sizowonjezera kuti tipeze. Kukhala wolemekezeka sikungakhale ndi mantha, koma sikukhala ndi anthu ophimba makutu a ana awo pamene akuwona kuti mukubwera.
- Khalani mumphindi. Ikani foni yanu mu thumba kapena thumba lanu ndipo samverani munthu yemwe muli naye. Momwemo, muyenera kuchotsa foni yanu ndikuiyika pa chete. Komabe, ngati mukufunikira kukhala nawo pazidzidzidzi, lolani munthu yemwe muli naye adziwe.
Ngati mutatsatira ndondomeko pamwambapa, mudzakhala patsogolo pa anthu ambiri.
Izi zikhoza kusiyanitsa pakati pa inu ndi munthu yemwe alibe ulemu wopambana pantchito yopititsa patsogolo ntchito. Ikhoza kukupezerani malo osatha pa mndandanda wa alendo.
Malangizo Owonjezera pa Kukhazikitsa Makhalidwe Abwino
Nazi zina zomwe muyenera kuchita:
- Khalani ndi nthawi. Anthu omwe amakhala ndi chizolowezi chowonetsa nthawi amasonyeza kuti sakulemekeza nthawi ya anthu ena.
- Khalani wowolowa manja. Izi zikuphatikizapo kupereka uphungu wabwino, kuyika zomwe mungakwanitse ku thumba la kubusa la ofesi, ndikupereka kwa othandizira.
- Khalani ndi chilankhulo choyera. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, musadutse miyendo yanu, pindani manja anu, ndi kuyang'ana pansi pamene mukuyankhula ndi wina. Yang'anani maso ndikukhala nawo zokambirana zonse.
- Gwiritsani ntchito ma galasi abwino. Kuchita mwanjira zina mwinamwake mumasiyira pamene ogwira nawo ntchito amapita masana.
- Valani moyenera. Musanapite kwina kulikonse, fufuzani chomwe chovalacho chili. Zimakhala zochititsa manyazi kuti ufike kwinakwake, podziwa kuti mulibe chovala choyenera.
- Musaiwale kuti RSVP. Uwu ndi ulemu umene umawonetsa ulemu wanu kwa anthu onse omwe mwalandirapo pempho-kaya ndi phwando laukwati kapena chakudya chamadzulo.
- Tumizani othokoza. Ngati wina akupatsani mphatso kapena akukupatsani phwando, tumizani ndemanga yothokoza nthawi yomweyo.
- Onetsani chifundo. Ngati mumapita ku maliro kapena kumudziwa wina amene wataya wokondedwa wake, khalani achifundo ndipo mupereke matandaulo anu.